From Sharon Salzberg…
Compassion is the movement of the heart in recognizing our own or someone else’s vulnerability. We move towards that person, to see if we can be if help.
In day to day life that might look like simply recognizing our own humanity, or the humanity of someone else.
I was teaching recently and a woman told me, after a sitting, ” All week long my boss has been a tyrant — unfair, judgmental, in a very uncharacteristic way. It’s only been here, meditating, that it occurred to me to think, ‘ She might have something going on in her life that is provoking this.’”
Here’s the first post of this series, Hearthstones.
Take a walk through the garden of forgiveness and pick a flower of forgiveness for everything you have ever done. When you get to that time that is now, make a full and total forgiveness of your entire life and smile at the bouquet in your hands because it truly is beautiful.”
― Stephen Richards, Forgiveness and Love Conquers All: Healing the Emotional Self
Life is a whirlwind of many opportunities. Choose to embrace all of them in deepest gratitude. Learn to forgive yourself and honour the heart that beats within you, as well as the head that rests on your shoulders. Learn how to believe in people again and not be judging or cynical to various beliefs.
― Michelle Cruz-Rosado
Forgiveness is a gift to the one who is hurting. ― Josee D’Amore
What do you need to forgive yourself for today?
This is an excerpt from an article that really resonated with me.
It’s tempting for anyone who writes about depression and anxiety to preach from hindsight, after he has “recovered” from his mood disorder: “This is what I did to free myself from addiction” … “Here are five steps to instant weight loss” … “These are eight techniques to cure anxiety.”
If you look at the list of New York Times bestseller advice books, such simple directives fill slots 1 through 20. Because no one wants to read the secrets of a person still struggling with her diet and exercise. After fifteen bloody weeks, she is still grossed out by sweat. Few people want to read a depression memoir that ends in a psych ward, with ECT.
In her piece she quotes Bob Kellermen about the temptation for preachers to speak from a “victory over” perspective versus a more reflective, introspective “struggling with” point of view:
What effect might it have on our fellow strugglers if we talked about the battle during the battle—while we are still in the valley? How might it connect truth to life if we were honest enough to admit that we have lifelong, ongoing battles that we struggle with rather than that we always have “victory” over?
I don’t know about you, but when I think about balance, I think about managing stress. And I’ve always assumed that stress is “bad.” Now there’s a new TED talk that takes a different angle, arguing that stress may only be bad for you if you believe that to be the case. Stanford University psychologist Kelly McGonigal shows you how to see stress as a positive and introduces “an unsung mechanism” for stress reduction: reaching out to others. Over 4 million views–it’s definitely worth the 14 minutes.
Kelly McGonigal on the web:
She’s author of The Willpower Instinct and The Neuroscience of Change.
Gratitude begins in our hearts and then dovetails into behavior. It almost always makes you willing to be of service, which is where the joy resides. It means you are willing to stop being such a jerk. When you are aware of all that has been given to you, in your lifetime and in the past few days, it is hard not to be humbled, and pleased to give back. –Anne Lamott from Help, Thanks, Wow
Here’s the first post in this series: Hearthstones.