Subtle Shifts
Sometimes I wonder if I’m making any progress with this self-compassion project. This morning, though, I got confirmation from a tiny exchange with my husband that, YES, shifts are happening!
We were looking for something and I was getting frustrated with the piles of paper all over our house. I said to him, “my goal for this weekend is to get us semi-organized.” He ran over and hugged me. I thought to myself, “what is this about?” He said, almost ecstatically, “I’m so proud of you! You didn’t say the goal was to get totally organized.” I laughed and smiled. It’s true. I do tend to use the word “totally” too much. I want to get things done, and done perfectly. I don’t want any of this mess that seems to surround us. But getting totally organized hadn’t even crossed my mind. Semi-organized would be just fine.
In today’s culture where everything is “super-sized” or “epic”, it’s easy to miss the little things. But I’m realizing the little things matter–a lot. This weekend I’m going to look closer, and see if there are some other changes in myself I haven’t yet noticed.
What about you? Have you made any tiny changes that made a difference in your life?
I’m also trying to be kinder in the way I talk about myself! No referring to myself as a fat idiot, for instance. It’s just words–I still have to work on what is in my head–but I find that it does help mentally, too!
Love the noticing of subtle shifts, tiny changes are so much better than waiting for the total overhaul. That just feels so overwhelming and my usual way of thinking stuff and then not doing anything. thank you.
I love this story – thank you for sharing.